“I have nothing to wear” it’s the song every woman has sung since the beginning of time.
Oh – you don’t believe me?
Picture this. Adam and Eve out on their second date (because we know the first one might not have gone so well). Adam tells Eve, “I’ll take you anywhere, I’ll take you to see anything. Go put on something nice I’ll be back in an hour”.
She looks at the fig leaves – Na.
She looks at the snake skin – Na.
She looks at the beautiful feathers of the jungle – Na.
It’s been an hour. Adam comes trotting back on a magnificent beast.
“Eve, are you ready?” asks Adam so eagerly.
Eve turns around and says - (ladies say it with me) - “I have nothing to wear”.
This is not a new mantra. It’s really not even an old mantra. It’s the wrong mantra.
See ladies, if I take you in my closet right now you’ll see hangers upon hangers upon new tags upon hangers of clothing. Some that haven’t been worn, some that should’ve retired years ago, and some that are literally on their last thread.
Now, I’m not saying I have a problem. No. I’d never say that. Because then I’d be saying my clothes are the problem. And my clothes ARE NOT THE PROBLEM MARC.
Oh sorry. That. That was um.
It’s a little worse than that actually.
See, I am the problem. Or at least was. In this post I’m going to share with you 3 reasons I said I have nothing to wear and how I eliminated this mantra out of my life one piece of clothing at a time. Let’s get started.
Up first is style:
Ladies what do you think of when you see or hear the word “Style” – fashion rules? runway? Whatever is on the mannequin in Target during a flash-sale right by the front door in my size so it’s God’s sign to be clothed in righteousness?
Ok. Maybe not that last one.
Believe it or not – style and fashion are not the same thing. Fashion is like the wind. It literally comes and goes. What’s considered fashionable is established by Houses or leaders in Fashion that are so artistic they must forget actual humans must where the clothes – I’m just saying.
Style, however, is as diverse and unique as every person living on planet earth. There are no rules in Style. No seasons. No texture. Just you!
When I didn’t know my style I was buying whatever seemed relevant. Outfits that may have looked good one summer but are hideous to me the next summer. Shoes that were only bought for that one outfit at that once in a lifetime event and won’t match with anything else. My wardrobe continued to grow with what I thought was needed rather than what I wanted. Looking in my closet was stressful, cluttered, and just plain dysfunctional.
But when I discovered my style. The colors I like. The fabric that flatters me. The message I’m trying to portray - All of my clothes paired well with each other in virtually any season. For any event. And every occasion. What I wore became conversation starters and opportunities to network, build relationships, and share the Gospel.
Next up, functional wardrobe.
Once I discovered my own style. My pizzazz. My flare.
I started to notice something very strange.
I was wearing everything in my closet. My closet. My wardrobe. Became functional.
If a girlfriend hit me up sporadically – as many of my ladies do even though I’m a planner and need to know 72 hours in advance where we’re going, what we’re doing, whose coming, what we’re eating – but I’m not going to talk about em.
Anyway. If they called me up and say “hey let’s go to such and such place” – it took less than 5 min to know what I was going to wear, how I was going to wear it and the accessories that were going to go with it.
Ya’ll. I was free indeed. For the first time, my clothing didn’t control whether I was going somewhere or not – it became other reasons like, not having any food – but that’s not the point. The point is, is that I understood clothing are essential to everyday life. And believe it or not a form of worship to God. You have to wear clothes in some form no matter what you do, who you are, where you’re from – and if this is true – then I had to be more intentional in making it relevant, doable, and functional for me.
This one should really go first. But then again it’s an ongoing process as long as you wear clothes.
Tell me something. If your server served you broken noodles over cooked meat, poured tomato sauce over it and called spaghetti – would you think there was an intentional process behind this service? Or what if you visited the nail salon, you’re sitting in the chair and because every technician is overbooked three of them are taking turns finishing your nails. Would you say they have an intentional process?
You would agree there is no way there is a process let alone one with intentionality – processes are important and an intentional process is even more necessary. If this is true. Then why don’t we have one for the one part of our lives that is inevitable. Our closet. Our wardrobe.
When I began to question the frustration and absurdity of saying “I have nothing to wear”, intentionality immediately came to mind. I changed from thinking clothing was a spur of the moment use to an adventurous expression of my style. From a random occurring pipeline from the store to my closet to an intentional puzzle where all pieces connect.
Then I saw it. One day while doing my devotion. As if God took His own personal highlighter and reached over my shoulder. The verse says “…whatever you do, do it all for God’s glory” (1 Cor 10:31).
I was mind-blown.
I wrote down so many questions.
Does that mean my clothing to? Does that mean what I look like? Does that mean I have to clean my closet and actually put my clothes on hangers and not in a pile on the top rack???
So many questions.
I began to search the scriptures about clothing, appearance, and what all this meant to God – He revealed so much to me that 2 years later I’ve written my dissertation on the very subject using science and theology.
If you’re feeling stylish, here is one action item for you.
Go to God’s word. Change your mind about clothing and you’ll always have something to wear.
Stay tuned for the coming series to learn about discovering your style and creating a functional wardrobe on a budget.